Heres Exactly How Often You Should Text Three times is plenty. Psychologist Nikki Martinez agrees, saying 3–5 texts per day is perfect. More if there is something specific you need, such as picking something up, directions, or are having a discussion about something, she says.

Should couples be texting all day?

Absolutely nothing is “normal.” Some couples text a million times a day, while others save it for pillow talk. Sometimes, on super busy workdays, there might be no communication at all. And thats totally fine. Try to figure out your limits so you can draw up the communication blueprint for your relationship.